Posted by SkySitter (184.108.40.206) on October 04, 2000 at 07:07:18:
In Reply to: Can one love, without suffering? posted by Kat on October 02, 2000 at 23:56:37:
: OK, I'm stuck. The Four Noble Truths teach us about suffering, and that all things, both livng and not, are impermanent. I agree with this, and see how if you can accept this where it will you help you not suffer when they are gone. Yet how do you fall in love, Marry, and have children, knowing that they, too, will be gone, and that we are supposed to accept this when they do. I know that no matter how hard I tried, I will still suffer and mourn greatly the loss of any of these. In time will come acceptance, but at first the pain will be so great.....
You might want to read Cunda Sutta.
Ananda, Buddha's cousin, upon hearing that Ven. Sariputta has attained total Unbinding,
"It was as if my body were drugged, I lost my bearings, things weren't clear to me,"
Ananda has not attained enlightenment until a few months (???) later, he has been a fulltime monk for almost 30 years under the teaching of Buddha.
You don't have to ask yourself doing better than Ananda did.
Suffering is to fuel of practice. You feel more suffering, you work harder. When you "get there", don't need any fuel. Before that time, I don't see anything wrong with it.
Just don't hold on to it too tight, for too long...
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