Posted by Rockie (220.127.116.11) on October 07, 2000 at 22:18:50:
In Reply to: love posted by kundagbo on October 07, 2000 at 12:21:42:
I'd justify divorce in only one case and it's a case when current relationships are an essential obstacle for your buddhist practice. If not, it's better to stay with your wife. You won't creat a bad karma ( you'll avoid sufferings in your next lives, caused by possible sufferings endured by your wife in case of divorce). And we have to remember that there is no real happinness in samsara, there are only illusions of happinness. Every pleasure and joy here unavoidably hides pain and sorrow on the other side. The impermanence of all phenomena is also important. The new feelings are not eternal, they can change sooner or later and you can face the situation when you've lost your wife and don't have anybody to replace her. You should value what you have already in your life.
I hope you'll find the wise solution for this trouble.
: i am a married man and although i love my wife our
: is not the same as it was when we got married 18 years ago.
: now i have met someone for whom i have feelings for.
: i am confused and unsure of the nest step.
: i dont want to cause unhappiness for my wife
: but yet i am not happy now.
: can you tell me what to read or do?
: i know if i have an affair and she finds out it
: would be tragic
: but yet what am i to do just be unhappy
: if you can give some insight please do
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