Posted by karma (220.127.116.11) on October 18, 2000 at 09:00:14:
In Reply to: love posted by kundagbo on October 07, 2000 at 12:21:42:
what I have learned is that the feeling of love when
we met some one and think that she/he will bring happiness
So I want to marry her just only based on that first passionate
feeling will ruin your whole life. At that time our state of mind is not same as
our normal state of mind, which can judge, make logic. Our state of mind would be like the one we have when we are
very angry. It is blocked in making judgement, using logic, see only negative parts of the
other person and cannot see the positive parts of the other person, cannot think of the long term consequences,etc. The state of mind of the person when
he is in love is also like that but in different conditions than that of angry and it will last little bit longer but not forever.
So, what I want to tell you is that when YOu want to marry somebody, you have to know each other for longer periond like 2 or 3 years.
AT that time our state of mind will be in the state of normal and we can make judgement. We will know him or her from inside. If we marry
when we know each other from inside rather than the sexual attraction, which is biological for producing children. Then the marriage will be strong.
So, if you left your wife and go with other girl just following your passionate state of mind then, It will have same ending and you will suffer.
Marrying with someone only base on sexual attraction is like building a house on melting ice. ONe day Ice will melt and house will be destroyed.
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